Sunday, March 15, 2009

A Gentle and Quiet Spirit


Just a note . . . this post on a gentle and quiet spirit is an expanded and edited version of a writing that was posted shortly after this blog began . . .


In Scripture, God has given many specific instructions to women regarding her inward heart and character as well as how this is to be expressed in her outward demeanor. These passages of Scripture together paint a beautiful picture of what a godly woman is to be like.

One of these sections, found in 1 Peter 3, is always so convicting to my heart, especially verses 3-4 . . .

Your adornment must not be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

Often when reading these verses, the question comes to mind . . . what do these words really mean? What would these qualities look like lived out in daily life? How would these be implemented? When looking at the meanings of the words, it brings a deeper understanding of what our adornment, this gentle and quiet spirit, is to be like.

The word “gentle” (or "meek" as used in the King James Version) is translated from the Greek word ‘praus’ which means, simply, “gentle, mild, meek” (from Vine’s Expository Dictionary.) 

Gentle” is also defined by Noah Webster’s 1828 American Dictionary of the English Language as “mild; meek; soft; not rough, harsh or severe”, and “meek” is defined as “mild of temper; soft; gentle; not easily provoked or irritated; yielding; given to forbearance under injuries.” 

Vine’s Expository Dictionary adds another element to this word ‘meek’ as it defines it as “gentle, of a soothing disposition” and that “Meekness is the opposite of self-assertiveness and self-interest; it is equanimity of spirit that is neither elated nor cast down, simply because it is not occupied with self at all.”

As ladies, then, we should strive to be calm, having a soothing nature in spirit. Our voice should be gentle and calm not loud, boisterous, rough or hard. Our words should be ones of humility and gentleness, soft and kind (though not to be misunderstood as compromising or weak.) Speaking the truth in love with mildness and gentleness. Not seeking to satisfy and please ourselves, but seeking to serve and bless others (Philippians 2:3-8.)

By the definition, another aspect of meekness is to be “neither elated, nor cast down.” These are two extremes . . . when things go well, one soars and is exuberant and elated. Then when things do not go as one plans, one crashes and has a downcast face and spirit. But the young lady with a gentle/meek spirit will not have these extremes in her character. 

Instead it will be: when things go well, she praises the Lord; when things do not go well, she praises the Lord. She rests and trusts in the Lord knowing that He will work in both of the circumstances for His glory.

The second word used here in 1 Peter 3 to describe the spirit that God desires women to have is the word “quiet.” “Quiet” is translated from the Greek word ‘hesuchios’ which means to be “tranquil.” ‘Hesuchios’ is also a form of the Greek word ‘hesuchos’ which means “still, quiet” (taken from Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible.) 

This word is further defined by Vine’s Expository Dictionary in which it is said that ‘hesuchios’ “indicates ‘tranquility arising from within’ causing no disturbance to others.” A tranquility that arises from within . . . this is from a heart that is abiding in Christ and resting on His promises. It is a heart that has a heavenly mindset instead of an earthly one . . . a heart that is fixed on pleasing the Lord instead of pleasing self.

Going back to the word ‘quiet’, we find that it is a word that is closely associated with meekness, and it refers to the spirit or disposition of a person. Noah Webster’s 1828 American Dictionary of the English Language defines ‘quiet’ (as used in 1 Peter 3:3-4) as “peaceable; not turbulent; not giving offense; not exciting controversy, disorder or trouble; mild; meek; contented.”

The words used to define this ‘quietness’ do much to describe and expound on what the “imperishable quality” consists of . . .

Peaceable: Christ promises His peace to His children, not as the world gives, but a peace which passes all understanding (John 14:27, Philippians 4:7.) We are exhorted to “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts,” (Colossians 3:15.) This peace should reside in one’s heart no matter how terrible or heart-wrenching the circumstances. 

The spirit of one resting in Christ will not be turbulent when trials or difficulties arise, but will respond with calmness and tranquility, trusting in the Lord. This peace comes in knowing that our God is in control; that He loves us; that He is upholding us with His righteous right hand (Isaiah 41:10); and that He “causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28.)

Not giving offense: It is important that we not be a stumbling block or an offense to others by not having this special quality of a gentle and quiet spirit being exhibited in our lives. (Again, this is not to be confused with compromising the truth.) 

We are to be “giving no offense in anything so that the ministry will not be discredited” (2 Corinthians 6:3), and “If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men” (Romans 12:18.) One thought given in Vine’s Expository Dictionary is that ‘offense’ refers to something which leads others into error or sin. If we are exhibiting the opposite of a gentle and quiet spirit, this could easily happen as others respond to us.

Not exciting controversy, disorder or trouble: A woman with a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in the sight of God will not be argumentative as she will be one who does not assert her own will or desires. She will be one who responds to others with a gentle and calm voice and a smile on her face. She will seek to be clothed with true humility, recognizing that Christ has commanded her to put others before herself, and because of this, her heart will seek to be obedient to Him. 

We are to be lowly in our own estimation for God has commanded us to “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves,” (Philippians 2:3) and to “Be devoted to one another [i.e. brothers and sisters in the Lord] in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor;” (Romans 12:10.)

Mild: The definition of ‘mild’ fits so well with having a gentle and quiet spirit. One of the defining words is ‘tender’. When you think of this word in relation to ladies, what do you see? I see a gentleness, patience, love, calmness, femininity and grace. Noah Webster’s 1828 American Dictionary of the English Language includes in the definition words such as: gentle in temper or disposition; kind; compassionate; merciful; calm; tranquil; not stern; not frowning. 

Contented: As followers of Jesus Christ, we are called to be content. ‘Content’ is being joyful in whatever circumstances that the Lord has placed one in. No matter how lonely the life, no matter how little the physical possessions, no matter how diseased the body, we are called to be content. 

Paul stated this so well in Philippians 4:11, “Not that I speak from want, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am.” As we see here, contentment is not something that just ‘happens’. We need with purposeful intent to, like Paul, learn to be content in our present circumstances. To learn to be truly thankful for wherever God has placed us in life, joyfully knowing that His hand will guide and lead us as we trust and rest in Him. 

Having a gentle and quiet spirit encompasses so many of the other qualities that God has commanded women to have. If gentleness and quietness were ours and increasing, would not it be so much easier to respond with a submissive spirit? (1 Timothy 2:11-12; Titus 2:5). To eagerly help and serve our families? To be a helpmeet to your husbands if you are married? (Genesis 2:18; 1 Corinthians 11:9) To be modest in our dress, in our words and in our actions? (1 Timothy 2:9-10) The answer is most assuredly “Yes!”

What a beautiful picture all of this paints of godly womanhood, and this gentle and quiet spirit is precious in the sight of God. By exhibiting it, we bring joy and honor to our Lord, our Savior. What greater thing can we give Him, but ourselves walking in obedience to Him?

May each one of us day by day seek to put off the flesh and clothe ourselves more with Christ. May we, as ladies of God, earnestly desire and strive to become ones who are characterized by having this beautiful and imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious in our Lord’s sight . . . and all to the glory of God.


-Posted by Sarah

9 comments:

  1. This is just a truly wonderful post. Thank you so much for taking the time to share this important reflection!

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  2. Welcome to our blog, Miss Linda, and thank you for your encouraging words!

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  3. Thank you so much for posting this. I really needed it right now. I have found myself getting frustrated with Tyrel and having a rather NOT meek and quiet spirit as of late. This really helped me to see again what it is that I need to strive for.

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  4. Thank you so much for your comment, Becky! We were glad to hear that the post was a blessing to you. :)

    Having a meek and quiet spirit is definitely not easy, and it is something we all need to continue to be working on . . . it is wonderful that you are seeking to grow in this area!

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  5. this was so enriching to my spirit and helped me a lot and I just wanted to thank you and I pray that God continues to use you!

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  6. Welcome to our blog, Blanco, and thank you for your encouraging comment! We are so glad that what was shared here was a blessing to you. May the Lord continue to guide and direct your heart in Him!

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  7. As I meditate on 1 Peter 3 I'm convicted and as I begin to examine myself and question what exactly does having a meek and gentle spirit "look like" ? I want to understand this wholeheartedly as I grow and seek to please The Lord. I decided to google this and I believe The Lord brought me to this lovely blog. What a blessing!! Praise God! He is so worthy to be praised! He always knows and meets our needs perfectly. Thank you for sharing.

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  8. Thank you for this great blog post! I am planning a lesson on 1 Peter 3:3-4 to teach the girls in my youth group and finding this was a blessing! Thank you! :)

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  9. So glad it could be a help and blessing, Beca! And we hope that your lesson will be an encouragement to the girls in your youth group. It is wonderful that you are teaching them from this passage!

    You are very welcome, and thank you for your comment!

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